Jordan and sex

Taylor has turned 10, and she and I have had a few conversations about the changes that she's starting as far as puberty.  I've answered many of her questions and I've been honest.  I'm preparing myself to have this same conversation with Mandy soon as she will be 10 next year.


However, I was NOT prepared for Jordan to start asking questions. Yes, there's the post where she is exploring her curiosity by getting detention for going into the boys' bathroom, but she came out and asked me some questions the other night.


"Mama, do you and Daddy have lots of sex?"


There's no way to go around this question!  I tried, believe me!  She's only 6-years-old.  I asked her why she was curious, and she told me that she was full of breakfast at school, so she asked one of her male classmates if he wanted the rest so she didn't waste the waffles.  He informed her that since she had already put her mouth on it, he couldn't possibly eat it or they would be having sex.


Now, honestly, part of me wanted to perpetuate this falsehood - "yes, kissing and sharing food is sex.  Don't do it!"  Then the other part of me wanted to be the good Mom who is open, honest and tells the truth so as to not scar the children.  


So, I informed her that kissing or sharing food is NOT sex and that the little boy was mistaken as boys usually are.  Then, her questions started flowing:


"So what IS sex, Mama?"
"Does it involved the boy parts?"
"Do you like it Mama?"
"Does Daddy like it?"
"How much do you do sex?"
"Do you have to do sex?"


The questions went on and on way too fast for me to process what information I should give to her and how much is too much.


So, I reminded her about the boys' parts conversation and told her that sex involved boys parts and girls parts.  I told her how amazing it is if you wait until after college (had to point that out) so that boys couldn't keep you from getting a good job, and that it is nice when you know you're ready.


Jordan took all of this in, and I could actually see the wheels turning.  Her face lit up as though she was understanding what I said, and then she said, "So, girls need to remember that boys are eewy, that they lie and you shouldn't have sex until you're a grown-up?"


I was proud that she had remembered all Ken and I had told her and said she was correct.


Then she asked me, "So if sex means boys parts and girls parts....Oh!  THAT'S why you like to see Daddy naked!  You must LOVE sex, Mama!"


At this point, I quickly changed the subject to the cupcakes I was making to avoid any more information going into the 6-year-old brain.  Note to self, be more discreet when making comments to wonderful husband if children are ANYWHERE in range!