One of the "benefits" of Dad's visit was that he and Ken got to spend actual time together. Ken was totally worried that Dad would be bored on his trip here, but that was definitely not the case. What was really enjoyable for me was watching the two of them get to know each other.
Now, I understand that there was some major trauma between them when Ken was younger hence why he lived with Uncle Jimmy during high school. I am well aware that most of it was related to Ken's mother, and Ken's ex-wife was a major reason that none of his family would visit him out here in California.
Because of this length of time, Ken was so happy to be able to show his dad his life and share things with him. I really loved watching the two of them get to know each other again, but what was really amazing was that Dad went with Ken to the VA Loma Linda for the MRI appointment. Of course, there was so much emotion riding on this MRI - was the cancer spreading or was there a different problem?
Dad could not believe the quality of care and the great level of service that Ken received at the VA. Ken arrived late for his appointment and was still taken in right away. Dad noticed that EVERYONE was polite and kind. What was apparent, to me, was that Dad was aware of how serious this is, and how much Ken's cancer affects us and determines our life together. I don't think that Dad underestimated it or downplayed it, but it is always another thing to see for yourself.
While the men were gone, I was trying to work, and since I had "down time" I completely fell apart with stress and worry. Add on top of everything and Ken's ex filed a new family lawsuit against him, so there was more fun to add to our pile of issues.
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